“You can do anything, but not everything.” – David Allen
As I write this post, I am on a plane with my two-year-old who is entertained by Sesame Street on her iPad. Yes, I am the parent that uses the occasional screen time to get work (or ANYTHING) done. I sometimes struggle when I find myself buried deep under a demanding career, corralling a toddler, juggling the delicate balancing act of coordinating family schedules, and squeezing in as much quality time with my husband and daughter. I believe I am safe in saying most parents nowadays feel similar pressures. Now, let us throw into the mix the societal influences of “parent culture” which insists you are a hands-on parent of perfection while simulating how effortless it all is. Its doctrine states you are immediately required following the birth of your child you forget who you were moments ago. The punishment if you do not, is the harsh judgments of other parents over your seemingly “inattentiveness.” Let’s be real. Be honest with yourself. This is unattainable. In all attempts to scale this Everest peak of parenthood you will ultimately deplete yourself to the point where there is no enjoyment through the exhaustion. So what is a parent to do?
As the flight attendants stated prior to takeoff, put your air mask on before assisting others.
Taking care of your wellbeing will only make you a stronger – more compassionate – parent. Cut out the noise. Slow down your brain. Find those moments of recharge through activities or simple enjoyments.
For me, this is yoga, running, and meditation. Right now I have done none of those this week, and my mind is racing, my body is aching, and my fuse is short. Quite honestly, this is not beneficial to me or those around me.
It is up to us to stop this mentality of selflessness and learn to be selfish on occasion! My business is centered on preserving those everyday moments with you children through imagery, yet as parents, if we are always living in a state of fogginess we resort to survival mode and do not experience such times. Moreover, then they are gone….
Do not regret missing those moments because you believed it was wrong to put yourself first every once and a while.
What do you do to recharge? How to you manage and preserve the YOU time? Let’s use this space as a way to share ideas and provide support to one another to make sure we encourage and judge one another through this journey.